{"collection":"Anguttara Nikaya","full_text_available":true,"graph_url":"https://unchartedknowledge.5gfusion.net/v2/api/page/suttacentral_an7.63/graph","html_url":"https://unchartedknowledge.5gfusion.net/v2/page/suttacentral_an7.63","id":"suttacentral_an7.63","license":"CC0","rights_basis":"suttacentral_bilara_data_cc0","source":"suttacentral","source_url":"https://suttacentral.net/an7.63/en/sujato","summary":null,"tags":["Anguttara Nikaya","Early Buddhist Texts"],"text":"Then the Buddha robed up in the morning and, taking his bowl and robe, went to the home of the householder An\u0101thapi\u1e47\u1e0dika, where he sat down on the seat spread out. Now at that time people in An\u0101thapi\u1e47\u1e0dika\u2019s home were making a colossal racket. Then the householder An\u0101thapi\u1e47\u1e0dika went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to him, \u201cHouseholder, what\u2019s with the people making that colossal racket in your home? You\u2019d think it was fishermen hauling in a catch!\u201d \u201cSir, that\u2019s my daughter-in-law Suj\u0101t\u0101. She\u2019s been brought here from a wealthy family. She doesn\u2019t obey her mother-in-law or father-in-law or her husband. And she does not honor, respect, esteem, and venerate the Buddha.\u201d Then the Buddha addressed Suj\u0101t\u0101, saying, \u201cCome, Suj\u0101t\u0101.\u201d \u201cYes, sir,\u201d she replied. She went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to her: \u201cSuj\u0101t\u0101, a man can have seven kinds of wife. What seven? A wife like a killer, a wife like a thief, a wife like a lord, a wife like a mother, a wife like a sister, a wife like a comrade, and a wife like a bondservant. These are the kinds of wife that a man can have. Which one of these are you?\u201d \u201cSir, I don\u2019t understand the detailed meaning of what the Buddha has said in brief. Please teach me this matter so I can understand the detailed meaning.\u201d \u201cWell then, Suj\u0101t\u0101, listen and apply your mind well, I will speak.\u201d \u201cYes, sir,\u201d she replied. The Buddha said this: \u201cWith a mind full of hate and no kindness, lusting for others, looking down on her husband, she longs to murder him who paid the price for her. A man\u2019s wife of this sort is called a wife and a killer. A woman\u2019s husband earns his wealth by focusing on a profession, trade, or farming. And even if it\u2019s only a little, she wants to take it. A man\u2019s wife of this sort is called a wife and a thief. She\u2019s an idle glutton who doesn\u2019t want to work. Her words are harsh, fierce, and rude. He works hard, but she lives as his master. A man\u2019s wife of this sort is called a wife and a lord. She\u2019s always caring and kind, looking after her husband like a mother her child. She keeps the wealth that he has earned secure. A man\u2019s wife of this sort is called a wife and a mother. She respects her husband as a younger sister respects her elder. Conscientious, she does what her husband says. A man\u2019s wife of this sort is called a wife and a sister. She\u2019s delighted to see him, like one reunited with a long-lost comrade. She\u2019s of good pedigree, virtuous, and devoted. A man\u2019s wife of this sort is called a wife and a comrade. She has no anger <j>when threatened with violence by the rod. Without hate or anger, she endures her husband and does what he says. A man\u2019s wife of this sort is called a wife and a bondservant. The kinds of wives here called killer, thief, and lord; immoral, harsh, and lacking regard for others, when their body breaks up they set course for hell. But the kinds of wives here called mother, sister, comrade, and bondservant; steadfast in their own morality, <j>restrained for a long time, when their body breaks up <j>they set course for a good place. Suj\u0101t\u0101, these are the seven kinds of wife that a man can have. Which one of these are you?\u201d \u201cSir, from this day forth may the Buddha remember me as a wife like a bondservant.\u201d","title":"Kinds of Wives","tradition":"Anguttara Nikaya","translated_text":null,"word_count":611}